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6 INQUIRIES TO PONDER BEFORE STARTING YOUR JOURNEY



Many inquiries arise for women contemplating an exciting journey into surrogacy. Turning the tables, we suggest you ask yourself some critical questions to help ascertain if you're ready for this magnificent and rewarding adventure called surrogacy.


1. Do you comprehend the process of surrogacy exhaustively? Venturing into surrogacy is a significant commitment that can be extremely rewarding. Most successful surrogate mothers have dived deep into understanding surrogacy before initiating the formal application procedure. 


2. What kind of journey are you pursuing in your surrogacy expedition? There is a myriad of surrogacy agencies providing different experiences. Identifying an agency which resonates with the type of surrogacy experience you desire is a crucial initial step. 


3. Have you shared your thoughts about surrogacy with your support system? The importance of support from your spouse, partner, or close family and friends can't be emphasized enough in surrogacy. If you're single, having a designated friend or family member to back you during this journey is equally necessary. 


4. Do you meet the pre-requisites for becoming a surrogate mother? Before applying, reviewing the requirements for surrogacy is beneficial. The requirements, primarily regulated by IVF clinics, encompass aspects like pregnancy history, age, and BMI. 


5. What attributes are you seeking in your potential parent(s)?


If the idea of sharing joy with diverse families appeals to you, as a surrogate mother you'll have plenty of options. You can help create families for a diverse range of intended parents such as same-sex couples, couples battling infertility, or parents from outside the United States.  


6. Are you sincerely ready?


One of our former surrogates shares her valuable insights to help you prep for this transforming experience:


* Brace yourself emotionally. Embarking on surrogacy can evoke a gamut of emotions. Enable yourself to let these emotions flow. Dive headfirst and don't shy away from going "all in".

  

* Efficient organization is key. Maintain a proper record of all appointments. Use digital tools or traditional calendars - whatever helps you stay on top. 

  

* Keep all documents handy! It's crucial to keep and organize all paperwork, forms, and emails. Try to be as systematic as possible as you could be asked for the same information at different times. 

  

* Thoroughly read your contract. Do not rush the contract. It can be complex and potentially stressful. Understand each clause comprehensively before signing it. Highlight and rectify anything you're not comfortable with before you sign the final contract.

  

* Honesty is the best policy. Be transparent with yourself and all involved. As your own advocate, if something feels wrong, voice it out! Relationships are built on trust and honesty, therefore your openness will be appreciated.


Embracing the surrogacy voyage is a significant decision, and if you honestly feel ready to embark, you could be on the first steps of a truly beautiful journey.
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